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I found this wicked Trump burn!

November 23, 2015

Now that I drive to work instead of taking the train I’ve been listening to a lot of audio books!  I recently was listening to  “The Road to Character” by David Brooks (who is a conservative columnist for the NYT) and I had to LOL so hard at this moment in the disc, so I’ve transcribed it for you (emphasis mine):

“What is Pride? These days the word pride has positive connotations. It means feeling good about yourself, and the things associated with you. When we use it negatively we think of the arrogant person, someone who is puffed up and egotistical, boasting and strutting about. But that is not really the core of pride, that is just one way the disease of pride presents itself. By another definition pride is building your happiness around your accomplishments, using your work as the measure of your worth. It is believing that you can arrive at fulfillment on your own, driven by your own individual efforts.

Pride can come in bloated form, this is the puffed up Donald Trump style of pride. This person wants people to see visible proof of his superiority, he wants to be on the V.I.P. list. In conversation he boasts, he brags, he needs to see his superiority reflected in other people’s eyes. He believes that this feeling of superiority will eventually bring him peace. That version is familiar, but there are other proud people who have low self-esteem. They feel they haven’t lived up to their potential, they feel unworthy. They want to hide and disappear, to fade into the background and nurse their own hurts. We don’t associate them with pride, but they are still at root suffering from the same disease. They are still yoking happiness to accomplishment, it’s just that they are giving themselves a D- rather than an A+. They tend to be just as solipsistic and in their own way as self-centered, only in a self-pitying and isolating way rather than in an assertive and bragging way.

One key paradox of pride is that it often combines extreme self-confidence with extreme anxiety. A proud person often appears self-sufficient and egotistical but is really touchy and unstable.  A Proud person tries to establish self-worth by winning a great reputation, but of course this makes him utterly dependent of the gossipy and unstable crowd for his own identity. A proud person is competitive, but there are always other people who might do better. A most ruthlessly competitive person in a contest sets the standard that all else must meet or get left behind. Everybody else has to be just as monomaniacally driven to success, one can never be secure. As Dante put it, the “ardor to outshine/ burned in my bosom with a kind of rage.”

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Hungry for exaltation, a proud person has a tendency to make himself ridiculous. Proud people have an amazing tendency to turn themselves into buffoons, with a comb over that fools nobody, with golden bathroom fixtures that impress nobody, with name dropping stories that inspire nobody. “Every proud man” Augustine writes “heeds himself, and he who pleases himself seems great to himself. But he who pleases himself pleases a fool, for he himself is a fool when he is pleasing himself.”

“Pride,” the minister and writer Tim Keller has observed, “is unstable because people are absent mindedly, or intentionally treating the proud man’s ego with less reverence than he thinks it deserves.” He continually finds that his feelings are hurt. He is perpetually putting up a front. A self-cultivator spends more energy trying to display the fact that he is happy, posting highlight reel facebook photos and all the rest, than he does actually being happy. Augustine suddenly came to realize that the solution to his problem would come only after a transformation more fundamental than any he had previously entertained. A renunciation of the very idea that he could be the source of his own solution.”

– David Brooks “The Road to Character”

I kind of love how much this passage says about the American Republican primaries. I love it so much that I made this!

Proud people have an amazing tendency to turn themselves into buffoons, with a comb over that fools nobody, with golden bathroom fixtures that impress nobody, with name dropping stories that inspire nobody.

So…read any good books lately??

Disclaimer: I am NOT American, but am highly entertained by American politics.

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